7 Couples Communication Books That Will Transform Your Marriage

This is by far one of my favorite relationship books out there. (In fact, it's in our list of the best marriage books for couples).

With beautifully written language and brilliant tips rooted in mindfulness, this book is not about finding the perfect partner, but about being the best partner you can be in a relationship.

The relationship advice for couples in David Richo's book is invaluable, and emphasizes our individual responsibility for meeting our own needs and handling our own emotions. To me, these are key principles in strong, healthy communication. I 100% recommend this book to all couples.

The Five Love Languages, authored by Gary Chapman, is a book every couple should read at least once. This is one of those books that seems to appear on every list of great relationship books, but there's a reason for that. The principles found in this book may not seem groundbreaking to us now, but they really are. The idea that each person has a specific love language in which they best receive and give love makes total sense, and once you've grasped that essential fact, it might be a major revelation.

When it comes to communication, couples who know how the other best receives love are going to have a leg up when it comes to communicating in a way that will be perceived as loving, and therefore be most effectual. If you haven't checked out this essential book for married couples, take a look at it now.

You can't list any books on relationship building without including one or two by John Gottman, a leading marriage expert. This book is among his most well-known and draws on Gottman's years of studying the behavior and habits of married couples. His research on the relationship habits of real-life couples has helped to produce this book and several others, all offering relatable stories of the relationship problems that plague us as human beings. You're likely to find this book an eye-opening look at the root causes and patterns that lead to successful relationships (as well as those that may lead to divorce).

How will this book help couples to improve their communication?

This book presents 7 principles of a successful marriage, all of which can contribute to healthier communication, but in particular, couples will benefit from Principle 6: Turn Towards Each Other Instead of Away. This builds on one of the book's main tenets: that friendship is at the heart of a strong marriage. Overall, this book will help couples learn how to better relate to one another and understand their own habits. There are many practical exercises and tips contained in the book, too, equipping couples to deal with conflict when it arises and to deepen their intimacy.

This book is all about communication. A short book, it is packed with useful guidance on creating a more harmonious relationship.

Even in "just a few minutes" couples will learn how to repair issues in their marriage such as broken trust, or a partner not really listening to you. While many of the techniques are simple and straightforward, readers and reviewers say that they have had a powerful impact on their marriages.

Do you want to learn to communicate with less blame and with a deeper sense of security? Consider reading this book with your spouse.

Did you know that the #1 skill for good communication is listening? We tend to view communication as a talking-focused concept, but in truth, it's all about listening.

This short relationship book is all about one revolutionary idea: validation.

In I Hear You, the author equips the reader with an essential tool for better listening and communication success and it can have incredible consequences.

Do you and your spouse find yourself fighting a lot? You will learn how to rapidly resolve an argument when it arises, or potentially prevent it from occurring at all.

Do you sometimes experience disagreements arising from miscommunicating expectations or hurt feelings? Again, this one skill may help you to avoid these difficulties by taking a new approach.

As you put the concepts in this book into practice, you will find your frustration melting away and your communications with your partner hitting a whole new level of depth and acceptance.

Harville Hendrix and his wife Helen are some of the leading relationship experts out there, and everything they have written is very valuable information for couples. This book has sold more than 4 million copies, helping couples all over the world find deeper connections with their partner.

There's a lot packed into this book, from understanding what drew you to choose your partner to delving into past childhood experiences and using them as tools for healing. Through practical steps to self-understanding, couples can discover ways to better communicate with one another, and move past some of their common blocks to intimacy and closeness.

If other couples communication books don't seem to work for you, this one just might. Designed for "highly reactive couples" this book takes a different approach, knowing that the typical communication techniques and suggestions don't work for these types of couples.

The High-Conflict Couple speaks directly to those who find themselves frequently in intense emotional situations in their marriage. Do you and your partner often find yourselves in angry, even destructive arguments? Do small conflicts quickly escalate into full-blown fights? Using dialectical behavior therapy, this book will enable couples to understand why their emotions work the way they do, and provide strategies for coping with these issues on their own and with a partner. With emotional regulation, couples are better equipped to use negotiation skills in solving conflict, rather than allowing their feelings to run away with them.