Every month we interview a new couple in our series, Where Love Meets Adventure. This collection features interviews from couples who have made traveling an essential part of their lives. We hope these interviews will give you an up close and personal view of folks who love travel and love one another, and will inspire you to travel farther & love better. And now, without further ado:
Meet Vicki (Make Time to See The World) & her partner Gavin
Hi! Please introduce yourselves.
Hi! I’m Vicki and my partner is Gavin. I’m a Brit and he’s an Aussie and we met in France back in 2008. At the time we were both attending pre-season management training course for the upcoming winter season – with my role being a Hotel Manager, and Gavin’s a Head Chef. Our official first meeting – which Gavin doesn’t remember – was when I had to physically kick him out of the bar at the end of the night on my duty manager shift. (And I do mean physically – using my knee and shoulder to push him out of the door – drunk people can be really heavy, you know!) Imagine my horror the following day when I heard I would be stuck with him for a whole season. Turns out it has been quite a lot longer than one season and 8 years on we are still going strong.
When did you first start traveling together?
As we met ‘on the road’ as it were, we have been travelling together since we met. After our first season we moved to Manchester (UK) together and have visited over 20 countries together since.
How would you describe your travel style?
A carefully planned and executed multi-stop adventure! I meticulously plan and research destinations before going and create itineraries through multiple countries and cities per trip. Airfares are expensive so we figure if we’re going to one part of the world, we should try and see and do as much as possible whilst we are there. We stay in mid-range hotels or B&Bs (although we have stayed in hostels when the situation has arisen), are happy to walk everywhere and eat local wherever we go. Although our trips are action packed, it works and luckily, Gav is happy to go with my flow because I think that if he was as headstrong as me, it wouldn’t all work so well!
What has been the most rewarding part of traveling as a couple?
Creating the memories we have together from our shared experiences. You can tell people all about your experiences but I find my non-traveller friends just don’t get it sometimes and having someone that truly understands every facet of every trip, and how much travel means to me is a gift I’ll never take for granted.
What has been the most challenging part of traveling as a couple?
They say having children teaches you patience (and I don’t disagree from watching others – and have no plans to find this out ourselves!) but it should be that travel teaches you patience. I have mellowed quite a lot over the course of our relationship, but let’s just say I was (am still, a little bit!) highly strung – and I’m not such a great person when hungry and tired. So I think it would be safe to say that I am the most challenging part of travelling as a couple! (of this couple anyway!)
Have you ever had a fight on the road/while traveling, and how did you handle it?
We don’t really fight – and if we do have a ‘disagreement’ it is usually me who is the one that gets annoyed and doesn’t speak for a while whilst I calm down. The fact I am annoyed doesn’t really seem to affect Gavin and he just waits for me to get over it!
Can you share your funniest, most humorous experience traveling together?
It would be hard to pinpoint one thing – and its often little inconsequential things that make me smile – like on our last trip to NZ we went skiing/snowboarding (I ski, Gav boards) and, forgetting that we had had a few years off the slopes, set out like we were world champions. This resulted in us both having major issues walking the next day so much so that we couldn’t even manage walking down the steps in the hotel! Luckily they had a lift… but we spent most of the day hobbling round laughing at each other and ourselves!
Where have you been that you would recommend as the top destination for couples travel?
The World! You can make anywhere romantic if you try and there are little romantic excursions and adventures everywhere just waiting to be discovered.
How long have you two been together?
Just over 8 years.
Do you think your relationship would be different if you didn’t travel?
Our relationship stems from our shared love of travel and the accompanying mindset influences all areas of our lives – like when we are saving for a trip and we become super frugal – and that we are both happy to walk away from our jobs to travel, having the confidence in ourselves and each other, that we will work something out when we get back from our adventures. You ask if our relationship would be different if we didn’t travel – but it is so ingrained into who were are, I don’t think it would ever be possible to separate us from the travel or the travel from us. ( <——–LOVE THIS ~Amy )
How do you define love?
Knowing that whatever the situation or experience, good, bad, joyful, stressful, ugly, smelly, beautiful – or anything else – that there is no-one that you would rather spend it with.
What do you think is the glue that keeps relationships together?
Understanding and acceptance of each other and all our faults and a trust that the other one will always be there.
What advice do you have for couples considering traveling together?
Be yourselves. Often couples travelling together have this idea that everything will be perfect and wonderful, but the fact is, things happen. You might not agree on things, have different ideas of how or what to spend money on or even down to where you want to go. I think they key is to talk about all of this before you go – pick a budget, decide if the kitty covers extras like souvenirs or even booze, decide on a list of places to go and things to do so and combine them so that your trip is equal in importance to that of your partners. Travel really tests your relationship and gives you a deeper understanding to who you are as a person, who your partner is as a person, and a can ultimately tell you why you work so well together.
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